hey yall!  its me again.  i thought i would be able to sleep late today, as it is my day off, but since hubby mysteriously has 2 "broken" arms and forgets how to care for a child whenever i am in the house past 6am, i had to get up to "help him" get things together so that they could leave on time this morning.  basically, it is early and id rather be asleep.  but i cant re-find that warm, snuggly pocket in the bed under the covers that feels perfect and makes you never want to get up again.  so i guess i should go ahead and start my day.

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was that paragraph coherent?  i dont know.  yall know what i mean!

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anyway, i think i am going with word press, but the biggest problem is coming up with a new screen name thing and a new blog title.  i think that "me vs. rut" is still appropriate, but i want something fresh and new.  i dont want to be "muppets mama" or anything, and i am not necessarily clever about things of that sort.  so...  its taking a minute.  but as soon as i come up with it, yall will be the first to know.

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in other news, i am physically moving as well.   ahhhhh- the drama behind that one!  basically, my selfish ass brother decided and told me (on this past friday) that he was moving out (this past monday!)  yeah, 3 days notice.  so, not only are we stuck with more money to pay out for his missing portion on house hold expenses, but we cannot afford to live here without that extra 1/4 contribution, so we are scrambling to find an apartment.  which means we will no longer be able to "carpool" with my family, so we are scrambling to find a cheap but dependable car.  i swear, i could wring his scrawny little neck.  he claims he moved out because he needs his privacy.  but i think it had more to do with the fact that he is a selfish, impulsive, immature little boy who was raised to believe that his actions have no repercussions and that he is free to do whatever the hell he wants whenever the hell he wants, all others be damned.  my mother, who complains about his irresponsibility and how she will be stuck making the mortgage payments (this is her house, though she doesnt live here) is the one who lent him the security deposit for his new place. 

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read that again.  she is the one who lent him the security deposit for his new place.  meaning: 1- he cant afford to move out, cant afford any of this bull that he is getting himself into.  2-  she financed, and continues to finance, his impulsive behavior, while complaining to her daughters about it.  3- she condoned his moving out and allowed him to screw her over with the whole mortgage thing  4-  she gave him a grand for his deposit so he could screw his little "barely legal" girlfriends without judgment and without question, while i - her other child- am left with no place to live and no financial reserves to find a place to live.   she made it possible for him to screw all of us. 

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and i am so damn tired of her treating her son like a GOD, it is making me crazy.  he has crashed his last 2 cars, and she act as his chauffeur/car rental/taxi service.  she caters to him.  she defers to him.  let me not forget, she is also his after hours child care provider, his bank, and his personal chef.  she used to do his laundry up till about a year ago.  geez.

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so yeah, i am looking for an apartment. but this is a blessing in disguise.  i will be able to have peace and be free from all the drama. 

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um, what else?  got screwed by my boss in regards to my benefits package, but the job itself is wonderful.  i am loving it, and am really glad that i have finally found something in the area that i am happy with.

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feeling sleepy now, sorry for the rambling rant, but thats what was on my mind this morning.  the next entry will be better, i promise.

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so, what should i name the new blog??!!

Comments

[afrindiemum]

rutgirl :) glad you're back!

[Hallie]

Yea, your mom is doing your bro a huge disservice, but maybe it's saying something-maybe she has more confidence in you being self sufficient and able to stand on your own two feet (huge compliment), and not your brother.
Anyway, I hope all goes well with the move.

[Sylvie]

Funny how mamas are about there boys. I PRAY that I dont end up like that with Gavin. My mother was almost the same way with my brother, she always said things like I had a better head on my shoulders and didnt need as much help and my brother was more like my dad's side of the family and needed all the help he could get. LOL! So I ended up being pressured into being the more responsible together one, even though I was the youngest. SHe's been coming to her senses lately though.

I hope you are able to find a place and a car. Hey atleast you love your job! That is a PLUS! I am happy for you.

[Zany Mama]

"but this is a blessing in disguise. i will be able to have peace and be free from all the drama."

I think you're absolutely right, even though it is causing you such stress. It's got to be better for you to be away from all the craziness. Sounds like you'll be doing much moving in the near future - physically and blog wise!

I can't wait to see the new blog - I am terrible at witty, clever blog titles and taglines, so I can't be much help, but I look forward to moving with you to your new place.